Sunday, December 13, 2009

It still stings.

I still don't know how to answer the question about how many children we have. We went to a community event tonight where we didn't know anyone. My husband had spoken to the organizer on the phone before, but we had never met her. She came over to introduce herself and commented on how cute the girls were, but of course it didn't end there. She then said, "oh two girls how lucky, are you going to try for a boy?" It felt like a stab in the heart, I thought I was doing so much better. I really wanted to say, we have a son, he died, but I didn't. I just smiled and made a comment along the lines of, oh I think we're done. I wish it didn't hurt so much, but mostly I wish people would think before they spoke. I know this woman did not mean to hurt us, but that's just my point. If you don't know someone very well maybe you shouldn't be commenting on something as personal as procreating.